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A Year’s Quest – June

Four tips on how to be a good friend. First, reach out to them on their birthdays. Second, be supportive by showing up for important events. Third, frame grievances in the context of how to improve your friendship. Lastly, make new friends by engaging with people you see on a regular basis.

Published on: May 28, 2021
Topics included: friendship | improving relationships | strengthening friendships
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June: Be a Better Friend

Send Birthday Wishes
Reach out to a friend on their birthday. Text, call, or send an e-card to let them know that you are thinking of them.

Be Supportive
Encourage new endeavors, listen without judging, and show up for important events.

Air Grievances in a Timely Manner
When your friend acts in a troubling way, share how it affects you. The two of you may brainstorm alternate behaviors that may be more constructive.  This is done within the context of improving your relationship.

Make a New Friend

Start a conversation with someone you see on a regular basis. Each subsequent time you see that person, follow-up on your previous conversation. Ask additional questions about them to show interest. 

 

 

Best Friends

June Goals

The left hand column represents the goals made at the beginning of the month. The right hand column represents the self report of whether or not a goal was achieved daily.

How We Did

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June Goals

  1. Send friends a birthday wish.
  2. Make 3 new friends at golf and/or at supported living facility.
Fredricka

Fredricka

  1. Ongoing.
  2. Colleen and Susan are new golf friends.

“Both are teachers. They are fun!”

June Goals

  1. Send friends a birthday wish.
  2. Preface advice with, “I’m trying to be supportive when I tell you this.”
  3. Make 3 new friends at golf.
Sasha

Sasha

  1. Wishing bday wishes on FaceBook.
  2. Colleen and Susan are new golf friends.

“They have a great sense of humor.”

June Goals

  1. Send friends a birthday wish.
  2. Make friends with new golf league people.
Pam

Pam

  1. Called for bday wishes.
  2. Still working on it.

“Too much socializing on the course.”

June Goals

  1.  Get birthdates from people in my contact list and send them e-cards.
  2. Say “yes” to all invitations that I have not previously scheduled something.
  3. Become friends with Mark.
Susan

Susan

  1. Chose cards on Blue Mountain. Scheduled to be sent.
  2. Saying “yes” to increase socializing.
  3. Keeping in touch with Mark.

“I haven’t seen Mark for a month, but we have been texting.”

 

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