Qualities of Good Friends
Go out of your way to help.
Offer to shuttle to the airport, babysit, look after the house while on vacation, water the flowers, walk the dog, ect.
Be sensitive to other’s needs.
Have a sixth sense of then to listen sympathetically, give advice, mirror outrage, give you a hug, and tell you when to quit obsessing already.
Show up for important events.
Birthdays, funerals, weddings, hospital stays, graduations, parties, ect. If you say your are going to be there, be there.
No one’s personality is perfect, but there are not so desirable traits that you can live with. Accept that a friend may have some of these traits and let them slide. Don’t judge
Stages of Friendship
This is when you know each other, but don’t share any personal information.
Two people that share common interests, some personal info, and value each other’s opinions.
At this stage, an abundance of personal info is shared along with emotion and unconditional support. You know each other’s likes, dislikes, philosophies, and values.
Best friends are likely to share some type of social identity or group. They understand and support the other’s sense of self and role in the group. According to Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas, it takes at least 200 hours of time together to be someone’s best friend.
How to Keep Friends
Write, call, email, or text. Any of these methods work.
This encompasses emotional, utilitarian, and financial areas.
Share your thoughts, emotions, and values. Be open.
Be careful not to dump your troubles on your friend, keep reaching for the best you can be.