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A Year’s Quest: November

November is about being considerate, thoughtful and polite. Being a buzzkill sucks out the positivity in a room. So instead of pointing out negative consequences, keep those to yourself. They contribute to a combative tone which is the opposite of what we are trying to achieve.

Published on: November 5, 2021
Topics included: goals | good manners | laugh
a couple making a heart with their hands

November: Keep a Contented Heart

Laugh Out Loud
Laughing is a source of social bonding. In addition, it can deflate an stressful situation not only externally, but also internally by lowering blood pressure and cortisol levels. Your goal is to find humor and encourage other’s attempts.

Use Good Maners
Make an effort to be more agreeable and show interest in others. This is usually easier to do if you are not hungry, thirsty, too cold or hot, or have to go to the bathroom.

Give Positive Reviews
Spin situations to the positive. This means keep critiquing to a minimum. If you do feel this need, de-personalize it and suggest a way to fix the problem.

Find an Area of Refuge
Is there a place where you can go that brings you peace? Perhaps a photo or quote can bring you to a place of quiet in your mind.

 

Rules

November Goals

The left hand column represents the goals made at the beginning of the month. The right hand column represents the self report of whether or not a goal was achieved daily.

November Goals

  1. Have a Pollyanna weekend.
  2. Give more positive feedback.
Arlene

How We Did

Arlene

  1. I tried to spin things to the positive.
  2. When I wanted to disagree, I offered support.

“I going to try to do this everyday.”

November Goals

  1. Be nice to people.
  2. I went to help my aunt out who is in hospice.
Fredricka

Fredricka

  1. I won people money at the casino.

“I treated my friends to dinner.”

November Goals

  1. Be more polite even when I feel otherwise.
  2. Laugh out loud.
    Sasha

    Sasha

    1. I tried to be the bigger person and put aside differences.
    2. I constantly laugh out loud.

    “I am grateful for my dad’s friend, but it is hard to embrace her behavior.”

    November Goals

    1. Spin to the positive.
    2. Use the loft or bake to de-compress.
    Pam

    Pam

    1. I am trying to be more positive.
    2. I have been crafty and enjoyed baking for the holidays.

    “I would like to be kind every day.”

    November Goals

    1. Don’t be a buzzkill.
    2. When critiquing an action, de-personalize it and suggest a standard based on their previous actions.
    Susan

    Susan
    1. This is a work in progress.
    2. I am one step behind the 8-ball on this.
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